Relationships - 6 Rules All Women Should Follow with Relationships
All of these rules save you time and reduces stress or drama. Relationships
have there ups and downs. but these are some rules you should always
Only keep reciprocal relationships. With this type of
relationship, You give the same amount (in effort, gifts, affection, etc)
as you get. And, its always implicit. Its not a situation where you
are obsessed or you "Love Hard." Everybody needs their space, but you
want to be treated fairly.
This avoids a relationship where you give 100% and get
back crumbs. You know things are bad when you feel you're trying to
make it work. However, you're not feeling loved (or sometimes you feel
ignored). You might say to your partner, "You're not even trying!"
You need to look out for the signs (aka the red flags). For
Example, Your text message is long, but you get back a "One Word"
(or short) Reply. You feel your partner is not really listening. Or, your
partner gives you gifts or "acts nice" only when he (or she) screws
You want to be open-minded, positive and give your boyfriend/girlfriend
the benefit of the doubt. However, with some people they don't understand
about giving, being thoughtful or being fair-minded. Your partner has
his (or her) emotional wall up. And, when you get "feed up", and lose all
hope your partner may get scared and act thoughtful and good. But its
Pay attention to how your partner is contributing to the
relationship. This specifically relates to important key factors in the
relationship. Those key factors can relate to money, ambition, affection,
senseless drama, etc. Remind your partner how "you can do bad on
your own". This reminder can be serious or playful, but its important.
As with many relationships, everything is great .. at the start.
Everything is incredible. Time passes and he (or she) loses another job.
Thru the grapvine (from your partners family or friends) You find out
that your partner rarely holds on to a job for a long time. You want to
be supportive, but you don't want added drama to your life or an extra
mouth to feed that has no real desire (no ambition) to work.
Stick to your beliefs. This relates to those strong beliefs
that you firmly support. So, for example, if you don't believe in smoking
or dating people that smoke .. Stick to that belief. Another label for
this rule can be "Don't lose yourself in a relationship".
Obvious examples would be changing your religion to please your
partner. Or, loving an abusive, cheating parter, after you grew up always
avoiding and disliking this type of person.
During the Dating Phase, It's a good time to remind that person
what you will not accept or "Put up with". Keep the list short. Let the
person know that list early in the dating Phase.
Do Not mention your rules! Your rules for relationships can be
used against you. You want the natural version of who that person is that you
are dating. If you are the talkative type that easily spills the beans .. this can
be a difficult rule for you. But, Follow it!!
For Example, You might have a rule .. "No Sleeping with guys before 30
days. So, in a moment of weakness, you confess this rule to him (or her). You
still don't know if that person is good or bad! You don't know yet.
This becomes a challenge to the average player, scam artist or toxic person. It becomes
a waiting game. If the person truly cares about you they will not change. You still
don't know who you're dating. Nobody should have the option to use any of
your rules against you.
Know what you want in any loving relationship. It should be a short
list. Understand the Pros and Cons with what you want from a relationship.
You would be surprised how many women want a Thug thats "Nice".
Or, they want that a trusting relationship with a player/cheater. Both
types of relationships just don't work. You can't be shocked when a Thug
gets jealous, attacks people in a club or just acts immature. And, you can't
be shocked if a player cheats on you. You can wait around with the hope he
(or she) will change. How long will you wait?
Don't box yourself in. In other words, don't put your social life,
your living arrangement and you money in the control of your partner. Each of
these 3 important factors are clearly important to your freedom.
With your personal life, Keep in touch with your family, friends and
Co-Workers. If your partner is toxic he (or she) will gradually stop you
from talking to all these people. Its a huge red flag.
With your living arrangement, you want the ability to control your
living arrangements or always have ways to leave or relocate. Moving in
with a new partner into their place reduces your freedom. Is your name
on the lease? Can your partner (if middle of an argument) kick you out?
Now if your partner does not like you working and that person
wants to pay all your bills .. it can sound good. But having your own
money gives you freedom and options you need. Having your
own job gives you a sense of power and adds to your resume.
Loving relationships can be special and great. But many relationships
end over time. You want a good relationship, while avoid the worse type