8 Reasons Why He Stopped Dating You
This is for women that are curious to why a man stopped dating her
without any explanation. Some of these reason could apply to you or
He realized you are usually rude and negative. Yes, you
smiled and laughed during your first date. Possibly you made one or two
small rude comments. After the second or third date, he
notices that your rude, negative comments are a regular thing
Everybody has a bad day, but nobody wants to be with a
person that is rude, negative or complaining or a regular basis. Now some
people will pretend to be nice and courteous for 10 mins and angry, negative
and annoying for 50mins. This does not solve the problem.
He starts to feel you are lazy and you don't mind admitting it
to him now. Yes, during your first or second date you're talking about your
"dream job" and how you are planning to take a college class or two.
Now some time passes and you respond in a forgetful way as
if it was just all talk (or fantasy). The initial ambition is saw in you was
attractive. However, now he feels that was all just BS.
Ambition is attractive, but deception is ugly. Showing ambition
is attractive and sometimes sexy. Psedo-ambition is deceptive. Both genders
play this game consciously or unconsciously. Your energetic, hopeful personality
was filled with ambition. Your last date showed a lazy person.
Yes .. Your plan can still be to take a few classes in the near future.
Or, You want to pay off a few bills before taking on a new expense. That's all
Good! But, it doesn't help to give an excuse, after displaying Lazy Traits.
How you dress has dramatically changed. How you look and what
you wear has an impact on your appearance. For Example, on your first date
you wore a floral dress with high heels. And, one of you friends said, "Hey, get
your hair done." In reality, you rarely wear a dress and you hate wearing
high heels. On your 4th date, you say, "I hate wearing high heels."
In other words, you go from dressing feminine to dressing completely
opposite on your last date. This all seems silly to you if fashion is a non factor to
you. Some people will focus just on high heels and dresses.
What you wear and how you look is important. You need to look
Good or better than usual during the dating phase with a guy. This includes
combining a movie night with him on your couch combined with laundry night.
And, as you know, dressing down during laundry day does happen.
A dramatic change in your look can cause problems. Anything from blue hair
to caked on make-up with your favorite faded sweatpant with the $9 Dollar
flip-flops can make stop dating you.
You don't respect his goals, his job or anything he's done. On the
first date you talked mostly about yourself. You changed the topic or didn't
really listen when he spoke about his life. On your last date, he felt you are
definitely self-absorbed .. and stopped dating you.
The Novelty or "New-ness" has worn off. He sees you for who you are
now and not what he "thought" you was (or hoped you was). He saw you as
fun, charming and thoughtful. Now he sees you as clingy, jealous and angry.
Yes, You "love hard". It sounds like a good or respectful saying
as if the person gives more love to a relationship. But, thats not the case.
Your voice is annoying him. Its too high pitched, sing-songy or
Creaky. The idea of hearing your voice for months or years .. made him
During the last date, He thinks you are an Alcoholic. For example,
On your last date you laughed about getting drunk last Sunday. You add, "Oh,
I was with my girlfriends. No big deal."
However, he thinks back on how you know so much about liquor.
And how visit a variety of bars. A few times your "drinking buddys" asked if
you was meeting up tonight.
To some people, women and men, they have experience with
people that drink a lot or drink too much. Growing up with a drunk, alcoholic
parent brings back bad memories.
This issue scares him off.
He avoids drama while you attract drama. You're accustomed
to the drama around you. After your last date, he noticed that all that drama is
a regular thing with you.
A Good relationship can provide much needed safety and give
clarity or peace of mind. After a long day, It's good to see a person thats on
your side with a supportive, caring tone. Drama interrupts that factor.
You said, "It's not my fault." But still your loud angry girlfriend
is screaming at somebody on your porch. It doesn't matter to you
that it's 2am. You told both of them to leave and it's common drama in your life.
You definitely didn't mention any of this on your first
date (for good reason). On the last date, you tell him a few of these stories
and he sounded supportive. Yet, later on or the next day, He feels it not
worth it to be with you.